tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6541542128751351447.post3556682609410233752..comments2021-02-15T09:11:44.063-06:00Comments on Farewell and Welcome Home: Feminism and MeNaomi Cederhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09984149935314850807noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6541542128751351447.post-47512259538448264182013-09-19T13:31:55.178-05:002013-09-19T13:31:55.178-05:00"I also feel the need to share what I've ..."I also feel the need to share what I've seen in the hope that somehow it helps people understand, that it contributes."<br /><br />You have helped me to do just that. I think anyone who treads the line between male and female blows society wide open, and is to be commended for their courage.Brian Everett Petersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03772128598027120916noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6541542128751351447.post-37490283166234441642013-08-28T10:03:09.252-05:002013-08-28T10:03:09.252-05:00tl;dr: well said re: complicated relationship with...tl;dr: well said re: complicated relationship with feminism<br /><br />In an ideal world, any woman, whether cis or trans or fluid, could be as dressy or not as she liked. Realistically, here and now, that's not happening. <br /><br />I can dress in a polo shirt, jeans, and tennis shoes and I'm still 'female'(I haven't really been mistaken for male since I was 18). I can wear a formal gown, heels, and make up and I'm 'female'. That's my privilege as a cisfemale. And it's up to me to realize that and support women who don't have that privilege. I may not be able to make it easier, but I can sure stop making it harder.<br /><br />Since (as I understand it) feminism is the radical notion that women are people and deserve the same treatment, that goes for all women; cis-, trans-, and fluid. We should be able to choose whether to be stay at home moms, work in construction, write video games, or be CEOs. We should be able to choose how much time and attention to devote to 'looking feminine.' Women who think of themselves feminists but deny these choices to other women, are they really helping? <br /><br />Sewickedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01687151840720911769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6541542128751351447.post-79567542858920684072013-08-28T08:25:48.320-05:002013-08-28T08:25:48.320-05:00I guess I'm not sure that I could really see t...I guess I'm not sure that I could really see the women who cause these feelings as real feminists. While it is true that the outward expressions of "female beauty" have been and are driven by male-dominant societal expectations, they are really only the symptom. I believe (as a long-time cis-male) that true feminism is about attitudes toward others. I could go on and on, but it IS a work day, so I'll just distill it to this. Be comfortable in your skin and don't worry about the nattering in the background. Also, realize that you're probably doing more for cross-gender understanding than any of the nay sayers will ever do!<br />OMBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05540968751023362376noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6541542128751351447.post-66312861908082520612013-08-28T06:06:25.563-05:002013-08-28T06:06:25.563-05:00"No one, or at least very, very few of us, ha..."No one, or at least very, very few of us, has the strength to fight battles all of the time."<br /><br />That's a beautiful formulation of the answer to so many similar questions: "if you call yourself an X, why aren't you doing X-ish things?" In a perfect world, maybe....Tim Lesherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02469159188193434861noreply@blogger.com